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Helping Children with Funerals

by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D. The adult as role model and helper A child you care about is grieving.  If you, too, loved the person who died, you are now faced with the difficult but critical task of helping both yourself and the child heal.  Throughout the coming months...

Helping Yourself Heal When Your Child Dies

by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D.   “The experience of grief is powerful. So, too, is your ability to help yourself heal. In doing the work of grieving, you are moving toward a renewed sense of meaning and purpose in your life.” ~ ~ ~ Allow yourself to mourn Your...

Helping Children Cope With Grief

by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D.   Adults grieve. So do children. As an adult or child, experiencing grief means to “feel,” not just to “understand.” Anyone old enough to love is old enough to grieve. Even before children are able to talk, they grieve when someone loved...

Helping Yourself Heal When Your Spouse Dies

by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D.   “The experience of grief is powerful. So, too, is your ability to help yourself heal. In doing the work of grieving, you are moving toward a renewed sense of meaning and purpose in your life.” ~ ~ ~ Acknowledge your loss...

The Spiritual Path to Healing: An Introduction

by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D.   After the death of someone loved, you are “torn apart” and have some very unique needs. Among these needs is to nurture yourself in five important areas: physically, emotionally, cognitively, socially, and spiritually. In the coming...

The Importance of Hope

by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D. “Today… I open my heart’s hand to allow… the touch of hope.” — Julia Cameron Someone you love has died.  In your heart you have come to know your deepest pain. Your grief has brought challenges that seem beyond your own capacity to survive....

You’re Not Going Crazy — You’re Grieving!

by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D.   In his beautiful book A Grief Observed, C.S. Lewis described his experience after the death of his wife. He wrote, “An odd by-product of my loss is that I’m aware of being an embarrassment to everyone I meet… Perhaps the bereaved ought...

Nurturing Yourself When You’re Grieving

by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D.   “There is nothing in nature that can’t be taken as a sign of both mortality and invigoration.” — Gretel Ehrlich The word “bereaved,” which to our modern-day ears can sound like an old-fashioned term that only a funeral director might...

Open to the Presence of Your Loss

by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D.   “In every heart there is an inner room, where we can hold our greatest treasures and our deepest pain.”  – Marianne Williamson When someone you love dies, you come to know your deepest pain. From my own experiences with loss as...

Mustering the Courage to Mourn

by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D.   “Whatever you do, you need courage.”  — Ralph Waldo Emerson Loss brings uninvited pain into our lives. In opening to the presence of the pain of your loss, in acknowledging the inevitability of the pain, in being willing to...

Helping Yourself Heal When Someone Dies

by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D.   Someone you love has died You are now faced with the difficult, but important, need to mourn.  Mourning is the open expression of your thoughts and feelings regarding the death and the person who has died.  It is an essential part of...

The Mourner’s Bill of Rights

by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D.   Though you should reach out to others as you do the work of mourning, you should not feel obligated to accept the unhelpful responses you may receive from some people.  You are the one who is grieving, and as such, you have certain...

Exploring Your Feelings of Loss

by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D.   “There is no right response to death. You make it up as you go along.” – Joan Connor On your journey through the wilderness of your grief, a critical trail marker to be on the watch for is Touchstone Four, which guides you in...

Helping a Suicide Survivor Heal

by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D. Historian Arnold Toynbee once wrote, “There are always two parties to a death: the person who dies and the survivors who are bereaved.” Unfortunately, many survivors of suicide suffer alone and in silence. The silence that surrounds them...

Embracing the Sadness of Grief

by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D.   “In every heart there is an inner room, where we can hold our greatest treasures and our deepest pain.”  — Marianne Williamson Sadness is a hallmark symptom of grief, which in turn is the consequence of losing something we care about....